The Quarter Life Crisis

I had the realisation when I was driving home from the gym last night that I’m officially an adult. Perhaps it was driving past my secondary school, or perhaps it was the fact I’d spent the weekend with my Primary school bestie, but it suddenly dawned on me just how much things have changed.

I’m 27, which I realise isn’t super old before anyone starts, but I do think it’s a bit of a weird age. If you think back to your younger self, where did you think you’d be in your late twenties? Lets be honest, to a 13 year old, 27 is bloody ancient! So I’d probably have imagined myself married with two kids and a dog and as of yet, I have none of those… well I have a cat, does that count?

Anyway, your late twenties seem to be a time that you start to question everything..

What am I doing with my life?

If this my dream job? Should I be doing something else?

Should I really be settling down?

Am I too late to go travelling?

And perhaps the worst of all..

Jesus this skirt is too short, holy crap… am I getting too old for Topshop?

I feel like for the first time in my life I’m actually noticing my youth slipping away. Yet, although I’m ready to embrace adulthood and everything it brings, I can’t help but feel a pang of anxiety and fear at the thought of it. It wasn’t until I started researching into these feelings a little that I discovered it has a name..

THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS

Apparently, there are loads of us feeling exactly the same way. Perhaps it’s not such a coincidence that Britney lost her shit and shaved her head a few days after turning 27!?

There are so many different reasons for these feelings. For me, it’s nothing to do with feeling unhappy about my life, I’m actually pretty happy with it. But my life has changed so much in the past 10 years, more than it ever has in the past and probably more than it ever will again. I’m no longer in education, I have a career, I have a mortgage, I’m engaged and I even have a budget spreadsheet – WTF! If you sit back and think about it, it can all get rather daunting and so it’s no wonder us twenty-somethings end up with the occasional pang of anxiety.

There are loads and loads of articles out there which give advice on how to deal with the quarter life crisis, but for what it’s worth here’s mine..

Firstly, just because we feel older doesn’t mean that we have to have it all worked out. I’m pretty sure part of the panic comes from the realisation that adults actually don’t have it all worked out. Who knew ey?

Secondly, you’re not too old to change your life. In fact, you’re never to old too change your life, but especially not at 27. If you don’t like your job or your current situation or maybe even your friendship group, take a deep breath, be brave and change it.

And finally, change your outlook on age and time. A lot of the pressure comes from the need to do everything now. This is perhaps my biggest issue in life. I am now trying to plan longer-term. From something as small as, I don’t need to visit a certain country this year to not needing to reach the peak of my career in the next two. You have your whole life to work, travel and play. You don’t need to have completed your life’s checklist before you hit 30. And if you do, what the heck are you going to do with the rest of your life? Take a chill pill guys, life is a long old road.

Apparently up to 85% of us twenty-somethings go through this quarter life crisis sitch. So if like me, you’re one of them, I hope this waffly post helps in someway.

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  • Beautiful :D
    bisous

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  • I love this post!! I felt exactly the same not too long ago, and it was when I put on a dress i used to wear ‘out out’ frequently. I found it too short and revealing and I was so horrified!!
    a life of a charlotte
    x

  • You look absolutely stunning! I love the blush pink top

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

  • I’m 24 but I can totally relate to the “nope this skirt is way to short for me” ahaha and I feel like I’m in the middle of a crisis every 2 months, I just wish someone could say to me “don’t worry babe, even if you haven’t all figured out, you’ll find your way, don’t worryyy”.

    Caterina | caterinasosso.com

  • Lovely post. Your outfit is so pretty as always! Have a great weekend,

    Gemma x
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

  • This is such an interesting post! I am 18 and even at this point in my life I am freaking out because I have no idea where I will be in ten years time, let alone in my thirties, but this uncertainty is exactly what we have to embrace!

    whatismaria.com

  • OMG I’m a fan of your shoes!! pretty pics too ;)
    Have a wonderful weekend! :-D
    Olivia <3
    http://www.oliviaponcelet.com

  • I love this so much, it is so relatable, as I’m sure many people have felt this way or will feel like this at one point. I definitely need to take that deep breath, and start changing things. Thanks for sharing xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

  • I relate so much, I’m only 19 and I already feel my youth slipping away. I know how silly that sounds but it’s the just the idea of getting a job and actually working shit out on my own. Those shoes are gorgeous, you look lovely!

    LoneTeenTraveller | Travel Fashion Lifestyle

  • I totally agree that at 13, 27 sounds ancient! But we have such a weird sense of time and age when we are young so I dont think that that should have any effect on how we feel about our age now!

    Abigail Alice x

  • Your jeans are so cute, love them with those shoes
    xo
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  • I struggle with thinking I have to have my life together too as I just turned 23, but I have to remind myself that everyone’s life goes at their own pace! Loved reading this!

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  • Quarter life crisis is completely normal dear. And yes, adults dont have it all worked out. That’s the beauty about life, we figure it out on the way, and it differs from one person to another. And yes, it’s never too late to change your life. Btw, you’re looking absolutely gorgeous dear! I love the off-shoulder sweater

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  • Really love this topic – always so interesting to discuss! This is such a brilliant post, and I think the most important thing to take away is that nobody needs to have ‘done everything’ before 30. We’ve got a looooong road ahead of us, and sometimes it’s just best to accept things as they come and go with the flow! :) Have a great week ahead!

    ps. you look gorgeous!

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

  • I love reading this and it’s completely normal to sit back and think about what you have accomplished so far. Being an adult isn’t always easy, but as we get older, we will learn from our mistakes and accept new challenges. And I totally agree with you. You are never too old to change your life! So keep it up :) xx Vivian
    http://www.viviantse.net

  • Nice insights here, I’m only 22 but I feel like I can relate at times which has made me realise suddenly that I probably spend too much time worrying about the fact that I’m not longer super young and in school/uni. ‘Adulting’ isn’t easy but there are definitely merits to getting older – namely that that’s when most of the best moments of our life start to happen, definitely cheesy – but true!
    http://skylish.co.uk

  • As the saying goes, “age is just a number”. Just enjoy every moment, cause that moment only happens in that moment. You look pretty, great outfit.

    StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova

  • The Sunday Mode

    I’m 23 and I already feel like I’m having a quarter life crisis, I’m wondering what I’m doing with my life, reconsidering friends, plans, life- it’s bloody stressful!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  • Kim

    Couldn’t agree more. At 13, I would never have been able to guess where I would be in my mid-twenties. It was just so far away back then. Now I’ve been taking everyday one step at a time! It’s less anxious that way. Although planning ahead and using spreadsheets helps too ;)

    simplylovebirds.com

  • Diana Maria

    Wow, I’m so glad I read this tonight! I’m 24, but I feel like I constantly worry about my age and wonder all of these questions- is this my real job, should I settle down? Plus tons of other thoughts. I think adulthood is an exciting new chapter to look forward to, and no one really knows what they’re doing anyway haha. You look beautiful in these photos, have a great weekend! xx

    Sending light & love your way,
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  • Alexandra Hubbell

    I just turned 26 and I was so anxious about my birthday! The other side of 25 seems so daunting. So many shifts and transitions, gains and losses. Thank goodness we aren’t alone <3

    Thanks for sharing. Needed to hear this!

    xx, Alexandra
    http://www.shethrivestribe.com