I had the realisation when I was driving home from the gym last night that I’m officially an adult. Perhaps it was driving past my secondary school, or perhaps it was the fact I’d spent the weekend with my Primary school bestie, but it suddenly dawned on me just how much things have changed.
I’m 27, which I realise isn’t super old before anyone starts, but I do think it’s a bit of a weird age. If you think back to your younger self, where did you think you’d be in your late twenties? Lets be honest, to a 13 year old, 27 is bloody ancient! So I’d probably have imagined myself married with two kids and a dog and as of yet, I have none of those… well I have a cat, does that count?
Anyway, your late twenties seem to be a time that you start to question everything..
What am I doing with my life?
If this my dream job? Should I be doing something else?
Should I really be settling down?
Am I too late to go travelling?
And perhaps the worst of all..
Jesus this skirt is too short, holy crap… am I getting too old for Topshop?
THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS
Apparently, there are loads of us feeling exactly the same way. Perhaps it’s not such a coincidence that Britney lost her shit and shaved her head a few days after turning 27!?
There are so many different reasons for these feelings. For me, it’s nothing to do with feeling unhappy about my life, I’m actually pretty happy with it. But my life has changed so much in the past 10 years, more than it ever has in the past and probably more than it ever will again. I’m no longer in education, I have a career, I have a mortgage, I’m engaged and I even have a budget spreadsheet – WTF! If you sit back and think about it, it can all get rather daunting and so it’s no wonder us twenty-somethings end up with the occasional pang of anxiety.
There are loads and loads of articles out there which give advice on how to deal with the quarter life crisis, but for what it’s worth here’s mine..
Firstly, just because we feel older doesn’t mean that we have to have it all worked out. I’m pretty sure part of the panic comes from the realisation that adults actually don’t have it all worked out. Who knew ey?
Secondly, you’re not too old to change your life. In fact, you’re never to old too change your life, but especially not at 27. If you don’t like your job or your current situation or maybe even your friendship group, take a deep breath, be brave and change it.
And finally, change your outlook on age and time. A lot of the pressure comes from the need to do everything now. This is perhaps my biggest issue in life. I am now trying to plan longer-term. From something as small as, I don’t need to visit a certain country this year to not needing to reach the peak of my career in the next two. You have your whole life to work, travel and play. You don’t need to have completed your life’s checklist before you hit 30. And if you do, what the heck are you going to do with the rest of your life? Take a chill pill guys, life is a long old road.
Apparently up to 85% of us twenty-somethings go through this quarter life crisis sitch. So if like me, you’re one of them, I hope this waffly post helps in someway.